We are hard pressed to say that a child might suffer from a
mental illness. We are much more likely
to blame behaviors and moods on a “phase” and think they will grow out of
it. Sadly, that doesn’t always work out.
Everyday each of us faces stress. How we manage to cope with that stress is a
test of our mental health. As we are all
different in our genetic makeup, education, and emotional hardiness, we all
react differently to stress. When we are
unable to effectively manage stress, it begins to manifest itself in different
defense mechanisms or outlets for the mental “pain” caused by the conflict. (A
good example of a defense mechanism is an imaginary friend.) I call it pain because that’s what the
anguish is. The pain becomes more
intense when the sufferer realizes that they are experiencing events
differently than everyone else and the defenses get more complicated; lying
about events, reclusiveness, etc.
Being or feeling different is difficult for anyone
especially a child who already has many obstacles to overcome when trying to
fit in with their peers. Unfortunately,
we are still a global society that stigmatizes mental illness and sees it as
weakness or flaws in a person instead of as an illness that can be
treated. Children are especially
vulnerable and may not receive proper care because they are reliant on parents
and adults for their care and parents and adults don’t want to admit mental
illness could be a factor contributing to changes in behaviors or moods. Some interesting statistics on mental health
in the U.K. can be found here: http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/0/22028518.
Would Jessamy’s story have been different if she had been
scrutinized more closely by a mental health professional early on? Her behaviors initially were benign but
eventually became harmful to others and herself. If she had been more closely attached to her
mother, her primary caregiver, would her insecurities have needed to manifest
themselves in the form of an imaginary friend?
Fiction leads to more fiction….